Let me first just say that pregnancy is a blessing and truly a gift. However, a woman's body goes through hell growing and birthing a baby. So ladies, give yourself -and your body- a break! You used it to create a life...things are going to look a little different after baby.
I gained 50lbs during my pregnancy. 20lbs of it was water and blood and all of that great stuff - I lost that within the first week after giving birth. I'm having a hard time losing the last 6lbs though. And I have to remember that I will never look the same as I did before I was pregnant (my cup size did increase by 2 whole sizes!) Now, I'm in the process of going through my closet and taking out pieces that I can determine will never fit me again (mostly tops and dresses that no longer fit my bust) and also removing pieces that are just not appropriate to wear now that I'm someone's mother and getting older. I've even had to get rid of some of my old favorites...then I look over at my husband's side of the closet, with all of his old favorites safely tucked away, with envy.
I also have to now relearn how to dress my body in the most flattering way. Before, I could look at the cut of a top/dress/bottoms and know if it would be flattering on me or not. Now cuts that were once the most flattering on me...aren't. And I still haven't found that go-to cut/style.
This video is actually very helpful. It explains that even if you lose all of your baby weight... you body shape may still be different.
Most of all it is important for ALL mothers to remember... we're beautiful no matter how our body has changed. We gave the gift of life... and that is the most beautiful thing in the world.