Tuesday, October 25, 2016

What It Takes To Feel Confident, No Matter Your Age

Confidence is a power that every woman deserves to have. Yet society, time and our own thoughts can do a lot to erode it. Particularly as we age. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Getting a few years on you can present an opportunity to feel more confident, not less, if you put a bit of effort in. Below, we’ll look at the physical and mental steps you can take to really start benefitting from better self-esteem.

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Love what you wear

As much as we might like to think that we’re ‘above’ it, our looks do play a big factor in our confidence. We might feel unsure about our body shape or our fashion choices, for one. But there’s no reason that your dress sense can’t be a reason for you to actually start feeling confident. Keep an eye on seasonal trends and try out items that you’ve never thought to wear today. Get to know your body shape and what best works with the figure you have. Don’t feel like you have to keep hiding away or going for the more conservative clothing choices. You can look great no matter your age or body shape.

Fight the signs of aging

Naturally, as we get older, our physical appearance will start to change, too. But you can have a big impact in that. Today’s 40s and 50s aren’t the same as the 40s and 50s of the last generation. With both a controlled lifestyle and the right products, you can keep looking younger and retain your confidence for longer. For example, hydration and whole food diets can have a great impact, while greasy processed foods will wreak havoc on your skin. Getting to know the best products isn’t about identifying brands, either. It’s about learning the best skin care ingredients for young looking skin. If you keep an eye out for ingredients like retinol and vitamin C, then you know which products to keep and which to bin.

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Learn the power of body language

Style and beauty can play a big role in feeling confident. But another physical aspect you can change to help yourself is what your body is saying to everyone. Not the shape of it, but the actions of it. Body language is all about displaying confidence and openness. If your body makes small, unsure shapes, then people will assume the same of your personality. One that can be a bit harder to cut out is fake smiling. We’re social creatures, we smile often to keep conversations on a positive note. However, fake smiling can make you look too eager to please and even a bit ingenuine.

And the power of language itself

Naturally, what comes out your mouth can have as big an impact (or even bigger) than your body language. These rules aren’t just for communication. They also make you feel more confident in yourself. For example, the rule of banning uncertainties from your speech. Every time you say ‘I’m not sure but’ or ‘I just wanted to’, you’re doing yourself an injustice. You’re not only showing uncertainty, you’re turning it into a fact. You’re not accepting the strength of what you’re saying and taking full responsibility of it. Own yourself and eliminate uncertainties from how you speak. You’ll feel a lot more confident when you speak. There are some who also believe that upward inflections on the end of speech can have the same effect. However, there are others who believe this might actually be another form of sexism rearing it’s ugly head. That it’s just a way of interrogating speech patterns common in women.

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Don’t shut yourself away
Confidence is all about how we believe we are perceived. It’s mental as much as it’s physical. Which means that your head can be either your best friend or your worst enemy. Your perceptions are almost always not as based in reality as much as you’d think. Especially when it comes to yourself. Your self-imposed reasons for poor self-esteem might be negligible, or even positives, in the eyes of other people. That’s why it’s important to seek out company. Get used to socializing if you’ve fallen out with it as of late. Challenge your perception of yourself as often as you can.

Be more aware of yourself
At the same time, how you think about yourself can have huge positive effects on building confidence. As we get older, we tend to get more certain about certain opinions and values. That indecision of yesterday becomes a malleable acceptance of changing views. Getting to know those views and those values in yourself is important. It helps you recognize what you consider important in the world. This makes you more certain in expressing it. There are even tools you can use to get to better know your views and values. This kind of awareness is something that comes a lot easier as we age, so take advantage of it.

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Taking care of yourself mentally
There is a fine line between low self-esteem and mental health issues. Sometimes, the lines between a lack of confidence and anxiety can seem almost non-existent. So you have to make sure you’re taking care of yourself. A healthy lifestyle, a full night’s sleep and meditation are some of the most common ways of fighting off stress and anxiety. But you also have to be aware of the symptoms and be able to spot them in yourself. Trying to take on these issues alone can be an often insurmountable feat. Taking them on alone just makes you feel more isolated and like no-one else can help, too. You need to recognize that everyone needs a little help from time to time and be willing to reach out for it.

The more you get to yourself, your behavior, your looks and your values, the easier it is to feel confident. The more you practice, the better you get and the easier it all feels. There’s no one-shot solution to confidence. You just need to keep trying. It’s the trying that builds that belief in yourself. 

This is a collaborative post written by a contributing writer.

This post is not meant to give medical advice. Please consult a doctor/medical professional for any health concerns


  1. Taking care of yourself overall is a tough job to do. It is bit challenging to keep yourself updated in all the aspects. Following healthy lifestyle and keeping skin healthy are incredibly important.

  2. Thanks for your helpful post. and really beautiful post. thanks again for sharing this post..

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